(or so everybody thinks)

Ladies, what some of you want in a guy, you probably don’t want at all. Not only is the world full of its commercials and magazines showing you and telling you “what you want”, how you should act, what kind of mascara is in, how many pounds a model gained, and who cheated on who. But you have these wants and demands that become your own. Yes, you have some good intentions and taste of your own laced in there, too. But respectfully, I think you’re missing it.

You think you want your guy to be at least somewhat cute, hot, sexy… right? But ain’t NOBODY look SEXY at age 80 in whitey tighteys sitting on the toilet. You think you want hair, long and short, blonde and ginger, black and brown, straight and curly. But most likely it’ll be falling out in twenty years. You think you want thin, muscularly bulging abs and biceps. Frankly, I “know of” maybe three guys that START to fit that profile.

Guys can’t live up to the imagery here, either. We’re both talking about and drooling over the toy we’ll never have.

But let’s jump to the real stuff.

You want phyisical security? You want to feel safe at night? Honestly, having all the martial arts and security detail training in the world (six years of which I’ve been around) can’t guarantee your safety. You want financial security? Some of the happiest men and women I know might wonder where the money is gonna come from to keep the power from being cut next week.

“Well all you really need is love.” Sure, I’ve heard that one before. Tell that to the nearly seventy percent of kids who won’t see their parents together from birth to graduation. Where’s the source of your love coming from?

You think you want romance? Try a guy saying NO to time with you so he can spend time on his knees every morning praising his One with dedication and prayer. Try a guy putting you second for a God that should also be first in your OWN life. Try a guy willing to give up nearly all his deeper romantic and sexual desires for your emotional security. Try a guy weeping about his regrets and failures in life over and over again: never seeming to have the answer. Try a guy ready to deny himself for his God, for his wife, for his children, for his friends.

What does that look like to you? How often do you think, look for, let alone DREAM about some of these attributes?

When you’re in a relationship (guys and girls here) do we refer and esteem our significant other not only as a brother or sister in Christ, but as someone’s future husband or wife? Yeah, you’ll be thinking abou that one the next time you plan on making out with them. Let’s just be honest here. How often do we think about that?

What would the dating world… elementary school (sickening, I know), middle school, high school, college, and beyond… look like if we thought of one another with our hormones as more than a hunk of pleasure meat or some cute item to tote around for our friends and family? What would divorce rates look like if we weren’t looking to fulfill our own “needs” of love, acceptance, and excitement with what WE think is best? What if we were on our phones, tv’s, computers, and butts LESS and on our knees MORE? Do we know what we want? It sure doesn’t look like it to me.

I know I have a load of work to do at becoming an unhypocritical Christian ready as a future spouse and bride of Christ. How about you?

Source: mountainmetro